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1/ Observe him in his element. You expect your partner to give you safety and security, but those are the very things that can work against desire. “We want someone who is grounding and anchoring, but we also need mystery, novelty, and the unexpected,” says Perel. The key is to try to view him in a way that makes him seem unfamiliar to you—like, for example, when he’s doing something he’s totally into or when he’s being admired by others. “Looking at him while he’s being passionate about something is the biggest turn-on,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., a psychologist in Chicago.

“A Handy Tip For the Easily Distracted” by Miranda July - NOWNESS (by NOWNESS)

Imagine now that you’re playing your own game. Before you start you ask yourself a few important questions. What are the rules? What does one have to do to win? Is it played on a field? For how long? With how many competitors? Do I even want to play? This game is yours and it’s played exactly the way you want it to be.

Don’t call me beautiful;
I don’t care.
Call me intelligent,
tell me my laugh is contagious,
tell me I made you smile,
tell me I have something to offer.

—Unknown  (via themilkywhiteway)

(Source: alert, via atlasmountain)

At a young age, our mother instilled in us social graces that I’ve come swear by. She explained that it’s OK to smile at a stranger or an acquaintance, even if they don’t smile back. That picking up the phone to tell someone you were thinking about them can turn a bad day into a better one. To do your best to be nice to because everyone is battling something. That hatred can be killed with grace and kindness. And most importantly, hurtful and passive aggressive remarks made towards you are really a reflection of how someone feels about themselves.

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Truth is Beauty by Marco Cochrane

One of the most eye-catching artworks at this year’s Burning Man festival was a 55-feet tall sculpture of a woman in a beautifully elegant pose. Truth is Beauty is the second of three sculptures in a series called The Bliss Project by artist Marco Cochrane. Constructed of welded steel rods and balls and covered in stainless steel mesh skin, the massive sculpture had interactive lighting effects that made it constantly change.

I loveeeeeee THISSS OMG

I wasn’t going to reblog this because I’m on the fence about Burning Man, but I have got to say…These shots stole my breath.

(via walkingthehealthyway)

Such a good reminder that we really don’t need the material things that fill our lives. This year I started a journal project with my daughters. Instead of things – we write about what we find funny or put in photos of the moments we share. My 12 year old daughter and I just made pajamas together. I’m sure she will outgrow them in 6 months but she wrote about the day we spent together and how everything that could go wrong did- a memory she now will always have because we laughed about it.